Question by NC: Step-parenting a 6 year old, share your advise please.?
My 6 year old son and I are already living with my fiance. We’re marrying in a couple of weeks, it’s been great between us but in these few days my son has been with us (he visited his father to whom he’s very close when I moved in with my fiance 4 weeks ago), my son of course has been a bit jealous which I expected and doesn’t really worry me, since we have great communication and I’m always there for him, but I didn’t expect my fiance’s… behavior. He doesn’t really talk to my son, except to give him instructions like to get in the car and be careful with something or if my son wants an ice cream, but not like actually talking with him. He’s also required my attention when I’m with my son, reading a story or something and makes me think he’s a little jealous too. He has no children, and is 37. We lived in different cities before and that’s why my son and him never really got the chance to know each other better. Besides, my son is missing family and friends, I think we should understand him and be a little patient.
If you were once in a similar situation, please, share some story or advice, what can I do to make it better between the two of them? I know, I’ve thought of talking to my future husband but I would love to hear true stories. Thank you for reading.
Thank you all for your comments. Objective Subject, I’m so sorry for your bad experience, I hope you knew who I am and what things God has led me to see, forgive, quit and do to have the great kid I have and my whole family and my son’s dad and family side to totally support my decisions, of course, this one as well. Perhaps I wasn’t good at writing what I needed from you guys, which is good ideas to enhance our family life, as I said it’s been only a few days my son’s here, it’s not like he’s being neglected or disrespected in any way, once again, you probably see your own experience and of course don’t know me at all. Thanks for trying to help.
Sofballchika9, you explained much better what I tried to say and I think you are very right. My fiance was 6 himself when his mom remarried and has told me many times his mind about it, he wants my son to have a great relationship with his father and with him but I think he just don’t know how.
Best answer:
Answer by Ally
I think even though your fiance doesn’t seem to be talking to your son much or anything, he will. I mean it hasn’t been long, give it some time and your soon-to-be husband and son will have bonded a lot better.
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